Slideshow: What is okay sex?
Bildspel: Vad är okej sex? - engelskaHere you can learn what is allowed, what is illegal, and what may be illegal in certain situations.
“I often fantasize about having sex with someone in my class. Is that okay?”
“I often fantasize about having sex with someone in my class. Is that okay?”
Continue fantasizing! Dreaming about others isn’t forbidden. You can fantasize about whatever you want if it makes you feel good.
“He is 14 but looks older. I’ve asked him several times to send me sexy photos of himself. I hope he’ll do it soon.”
“He is 14 but looks older. I’ve asked him several times to send me sexy photos of himself. I hope he’ll do it soon.”
It’s illegal to try to get someone under the age of 15 to send sexy photos of themselves. It’s not illegal for him to send them, but you must not try to persuade him to do so.
“An older girl at school whispered to me that she wants to have sex. I don't really want to, but it's embarrassing to say no to a girl.”
“An older girl at school whispered to me that she wants to have sex. I don’t really want to, but it’s embarrassing to say no to a girl.”
If you don’t want to, you should say no. It isn’t embarrassing to say no. It may be illegal for her to keep suggesting that you have sex, even though you have said no.
“She’s 18 just like me. We’ve chatted online and flirted many times, but as soon as I ask her to take off her sweater, she wants to quit.”
“She’s 18 just like me. We’ve chatted online and flirted many times, but as soon as I ask her to take off her sweater, she wants to quit.”
You have asked her, and she has said no. You must respect that. How would you feel if someone asked you many times to do something that you didn’t want to do? It’s not okay to badger her about it, and in some cases it may be illegal.
”He says no, but I think he really wants to have sex. So isn't it ok if I just go on?”
”He says no, but I think he really wants to have sex. So isn't it ok if I just go on?"
You must respect his word when he says that he doesn't want to. You are only to have sex if both people want to. Do not badger someone into having sex with you. It’s not respectful. It is illegal to have sex with someone who doesn't want to.
"My girlfriend and I were making out, she had her hands under my shirt. I wanted us to take our clothes off. Was it okay to take off her shirt?"
"My girlfriend and I were making out, she had her hands under my shirt. I wanted us to take our clothes off. Was it okay to take off her shirt?"
Yes, it was okay as long as you both wanted it to happen. If you’re not sure whether she wants to do something, you have to find out. A good way to find out is to ask if she wants to keep going. As long as she says yes or clearly shows that she wants it, then it’s completely okay.
”When a friend and I were at a concert, he went over to a girl and touched her breasts. It was very embarrassing. The girl threatened to call the police. Did my friend do anything illegal?”
”When a friend and I were at a concert, he went over to a girl and touched her breasts. It was very embarrassing. The girl threatened to call the police. Did my friend do anything illegal?”
It's illegal to touch another person's body in a way that the person thinks is unpleasant or offensive. As a friend, you can tell him that what he did was wrong and illegal.
”I watch porn. Am I allowed to do that?”
”I watch porn. Am I allowed to do that?”
Yes, you are. If you like to watch porn and it makes you feel good, you can continue doing that. However, it is illegal to have or spread porn that depicts children.
"My sister's friend has agreed to have sex with me if I buy alcohol as payment."
"My sister's friend has agreed to have sex with me if I buy alcohol as payment."
You aren't allowed to pay for sex. Alcohol is counted as payment. In addition, it's illeagal to buy alcohol for under 20 years of age. In other words, you commit two crimes if you buy alcohol as payment for sex.
”I sent a photo of a penis to a couple of girls at scool. I meant it mainly as a joke. The girls were really angry and said it was illeagal. But can't they just delete the photo if they're bothered by it?”
”I sent a photo of a penis to a couple of girls at scool. I meant it mainly as a joke. The girls were really angry and said it was illeagal. But can't they just delete the photo if they're bothered by it?”
You aren't allowed to send images to other people that can be insulting or of a sexual nature if they haven't first said that it's okay. Don't do this again. This is illegal. The girls can report you to the police for sexual harassment.
"My PE teacher asked me to stay after class. She commented on my body and suggested that we meet up alone at her house some day, kind of like a date. I don’t know if I want to, but I’m afraid she’ll give me a bad grade if I say no."
"My PE teacher asked me to stay after class. She commented on my body and suggested that we meet up alone at her house some day, kind of like a date. I don’t know if I want to, but I’m afraid she’ll give me a bad grade if I say no."
It’s not okay for a teacher to ask a pupil on a date, make sexual suggestions or do something sexual with a pupil. It’s not right of her to give you a lower grade if you say no. If she were to do something sexual with you that you don’t want to do, it’s illegal. Tell another adult what happened to make sure it does not happen again.
